Individualistic, yea i am

Ever since i was young i learnt one very important thing. You have to learn to survive on your own. Nobody is there to truly help you step by step. This slowly developed to what i realise today; i'm afraid to be attached to a person. The fear of being rejected later overcomes every reasons that i should let myself unguarded and let these people in my life. Little things would make me take a step backward. Even if it was seen to be a small matter, but for me it isn't. Very bad for someone doing far distance relationship, not forgetting other obstacles. It frightened me and i would stop myself from being so close until the issue was resolved. I was said to be selfish, wanting things to be in my way. I can't help it. How do i tailored myself to your insensitive thoughts?  No anger, just plain heartache. It doesn't mean i can't commit and can't be loyal. I'm just a typical taurus with a humongous need for security and stability.